This post is way overdue but I told myself that as long as it was posted the month of our anniversary, all was good.
Well, look at that; I made it. Barely.
We had completely different plans to celebrate our 7th wedding anniversary but when Sean learned the news that one of his college friends had passed away we quickly scratched our plans and chose to say our final goodbyes.
Sean and I went to college together so when he showed me a picture of his friend I gasped because I remembered him. Sean had done a few reunions with him over the years but I always sat them out because I'm a strong believer that we all need one on one time with our own friends. His friend was one year ahead of me and I could clearly picture him around campus because he was one of those guys. The good looking guy who was so sure of himself, even at 20. I was so sad to see that at 35 he was gone but impressed with everything he had accomplished in his short years.
I know, I know, this is suppose to be a happy post but I guess some happy sprinkled with some reality is necessary sometimes.
Since we cancelled our plans we decided to do a day trip in the city since the funeral was 20 miles away from the city.
And we didn't do much. We walked, and we talked and we walked some more. We picked up a pretzel from a vendor and had a few drinks at Papillon. We called to make a reservation at Tao and luckily we could be seated with short notice.
It wasn't anything extremely special but it was. I think there is nothing quite like seeing how quickly life can be taken away before celebrating big moments in life. It was a reminder that life won't always be this way. Things change. So when you're happy now inhale it. Let it bathe you. These happy memories are what will sustain me years from now. The memories that sustain me now.
I have moments when I look at Sean and just think, man, I'm so ridiculously grateful for you. Because I am. We didn't just celebrate 7 years, we celebrated life, each other and right now. Because tomorrow, tomorrow, you just never know.
Well, look at that; I made it. Barely.
We had completely different plans to celebrate our 7th wedding anniversary but when Sean learned the news that one of his college friends had passed away we quickly scratched our plans and chose to say our final goodbyes.
Sean and I went to college together so when he showed me a picture of his friend I gasped because I remembered him. Sean had done a few reunions with him over the years but I always sat them out because I'm a strong believer that we all need one on one time with our own friends. His friend was one year ahead of me and I could clearly picture him around campus because he was one of those guys. The good looking guy who was so sure of himself, even at 20. I was so sad to see that at 35 he was gone but impressed with everything he had accomplished in his short years.
I know, I know, this is suppose to be a happy post but I guess some happy sprinkled with some reality is necessary sometimes.
Since we cancelled our plans we decided to do a day trip in the city since the funeral was 20 miles away from the city.
And we didn't do much. We walked, and we talked and we walked some more. We picked up a pretzel from a vendor and had a few drinks at Papillon. We called to make a reservation at Tao and luckily we could be seated with short notice.
It wasn't anything extremely special but it was. I think there is nothing quite like seeing how quickly life can be taken away before celebrating big moments in life. It was a reminder that life won't always be this way. Things change. So when you're happy now inhale it. Let it bathe you. These happy memories are what will sustain me years from now. The memories that sustain me now.
I have moments when I look at Sean and just think, man, I'm so ridiculously grateful for you. Because I am. We didn't just celebrate 7 years, we celebrated life, each other and right now. Because tomorrow, tomorrow, you just never know.
I am so sorry for your loss. :( I am glad you guys were able to spend some quality time together though. <3
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So, so sorry for your loss. But, so glad you were able to enjoy some good moments together as well.
ReplyDeleteCheers to 7 years.
How sad about Sean's buddy. That is so so young, and it's so true. We are not promised tomorrow. I'm glad you were able to appreciate the specialness in your time together anyway even though it was not the original plan.
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ReplyDeleteI'm glad you got some together time despite the sadness. I hate that we are now the age where our peers passing away is becoming a regular occurrence. :(
ReplyDeleteNYC is always a good idea no matter what time of year.
ReplyDeleteGosh so sad about the college friend passing away. It's weird when I hear of people our age dying because I am like, wow, that could have been me. I know that's our destiny but it feels like we have ways to go before we get there or maybe not.
So glad you always makes time to celebrate and appreciate each other
So, so sorry for your loss. But I'm glad you were able to focus on the good.. the now. You're absolutely right -- tomorrow is definitely not promised so it's imperative that we celebrate our lives and the lives of our loved ones as often as we can.
ReplyDeleteHappy Anniversary to you two. May your union remain unbreakable! <3
So sorry for your loss.
ReplyDeleteSometimes a loss helps us remember to cherish the now.
Happy Belated Anniversary... looks like you had a wonderful time.
I'm sorry about Sean's friend :( This makes me incredibly sad.
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