Tidbits about my mom ♥

I have this irrational fear that as the more time passes, I’ll begin to forget things my mom did, said, her gestures and how big her smile was. If it weren’t for saved voicemails, I believe I’d forgotten her soft but firm voice.

It has become a bit of a ritual that every night before bed, I lay in bed and try to remember little things about my mom to keep her fresh and alive in my mind.

Whenever my mom called me, she’d ask me, “How is my boy?” The boy she was referring to was Sean.

Whenever I would ask my mom, “What’s up?” she would reply, “The sky”.

My mom was such a great listener that when we spoke on the phone, I often thought that our call had dropped because she was so quiet. And when I would ask, “Hey mom, you there?” she would reply, “I’m here, just listening”. It wasn’t that she was quiet, it was that she was intently listening to everything you had to say.

When I would gain weight, my mom would say, “You’ve been eating the junks”. And it always was with an “s” on purpose to let me know, she knew I was eating more than one type of junk. Hahaha.

Every time we got off the phone she’d pray over me. Every single time.

She was such an amazing cook and I truly believe it is why my sisters and I love to cook so much. I particularly miss her fufu with peanut soup and her kenkey and shito so, so much.

My mom would always say, “Don’t broadcast all the good you’ve done for praise, as some things ought to be kept between you and God". This is why at her go-away I was a little shocked of the massive amount of stories that people shared. I was aware of the incredible person she was but to actually hear the stories from so many people my mom personally helped … well, it just inspired me. She gave so much of herself and lived a life that I hope that one day I can say mirrored hers.

There’s so much more but I’ll hold off until another time. Man, I miss my mom.