"At Least He Has A Job"

This weekend, the hubby and I were invited by our neighbors {let's call them D & K} to go with them fishing at D's sister's lake house.

Hubby was more stoked than I was because fishing is not my cup of tea. I just want to eat the fish, not see them die. Hubby was thrilled because for his graduation gift I got him a fishing line so naturally he wants to put it to some good use.

D & K are older than us. How much older you ask. They are in their 50s. D's two sisters and BIL are in their 60's so we were called kiddos the whole time. Not a big deal.

While hubby fished, I talked to K, one of D's sister and D's BIL.

Anywho, D's sister started to talk about her daughter with K and I, and one comment she made had me scratch my head. Of course, I scratched my head internally. Scratching your head in front of a person let's them know automatically that you don't understand them.

She said, "C has a new boyfriend. The last one was a mess but at least this one has a job."

I smiled politely of course but a million thoughts crossed my mind. Wait, what? Is this what a good man is all about now-a-days.

I began to think of my own mother and knew that, that comment would never have come out of her mouth. My mom believes I deserve more than just a man who "at least has a job."

Whatever happen to morals, good character, being God-fearing and etc? When did having a job make you a person that your parents want you to be it? Yeah, I know that having a job is a good quality but in this day and age there are so many great men out there who do not have a job. Does that make them least appealing?

And so what if he has a job. Is he punching your daughter in the face? If so, that job means a whole lot of nothing.

If I ever have a daughter I will make sure to never make that comment. I would let her know just how important it is to be with a man who has great character. Because most likely if he has great character, he isn't lazy, and will most likely have a job.