Sunday, June 5, 2011

Weekend Of Reflection

I truly wanted to enjoy this weekend because training ended for hubs so next weekend his new schedule begins. I've been dreading it but I was determined to make this weekend a great one. I was going to do all the things great wives do. If you don't know what great wives do, shame on you. ;)

That plan changed on Friday night when hubby received a phone call from one of his rugby teammates that one of their teammates had passed away. It was horrible. Hubs cried, his teammate cried and then they had a gathering where all the teammates cried.

I think what made it worst was when they found out that their teammate that they absolutely loved committed suicide by hanging himself. That was worse. It was one thing if maybe he had gotten into a car accident but when they learned that he had purposely taken his life, that made it worst.

Hubs started to question himself. Maybe if I called him. Maybe if I met him for that drink. Maybe if I wrote on his wall and told him how awesome he was and what a great addition to the team he was.

He was new to the team this season but he was already becoming one of the guys who just went all out for the team. He went to every practice and every game {even when he was injured}. He was the type of guy they needed on their team and they were thrilled that he joined them.

He was funny and charming. So charismatic. He loved his girlfriend and his girlfriend adored him. I can't imagine the pain she is going through right now.

On the outside looking in, it looked like everything was perfect. Nothing was wrong. The worst part is that there were no signs that he was struggling inside. Maybe the sign was being overly excited, overly happy but that isn't a sign most people look for when you think your friend might want to commit suicide.

Even I said to myself, maybe if I smiled at him after that last game and told him how great of a rugger he was turning into. I didn't. And now he is gone. This person who was full of life will never walk the earth again.

It is such a difficult thing to think about and unfortunately all of us will go through this in our lives. Death is such a scary thought. To think that the people we love will one day leave us scares me to no end. I don't want to think about it but death has been on my mind all weekend.

I hugged the hubs tighter this weekend and called my family to let them know just how much I loved them. You just never know. And I never want to have to think about what I could have done or should have said to let them know just how much I love them.

Although, the weekend never turned out the way I planned, I am OK with that. Sometimes you have to think about the hard things in order to get your life into perspective. This weekend, we talked about a lot of things I never thought we would talk about but it reminded me just how much we love each other and how much we never want to take a day with each other for granted.

Each day, treat it like your last. Each day, let the people you love know you love them. Each day, laugh more and complain less. Each day marvel about how beautiful life truly is. Each day, go to sleep knowing that if tomorrow never came your life would be a testimony.

28 comments:

Marie said...

I'm so sorry Faith, your poor hubs and his poor team. My heart goes out to everyone who knew this guy. You're right though, events like this really make you put things in to perspective. After reading your post, I'm going to make sure that I give all my friends a great big hug the next time I see them.

Dani @ OK, Dani said...

UGH!!! That's awful. So sorry to hear this. It's so sad but a reminder to let your friends and family know how much they're loved each and every day.

Frugalista said...

That is so super sad. Suicide and the loss of any life is just awful. Poor guy and his family.

redwhitebride said...

i'm so sorry to hear that. it reminds us all that it's important to cherish our loved ones every moment.

Mrs. Pancakes said...

Oh wow Faith, that's devastating news, my heart goes out to you and your hubby as you get through this difficult time! There is absolutely nothing anyone could have done differently! My heart also go out to his and his family and his teammates!

Sharon said...

I wish I could say something that could make you feel better, but I'm not that clever. All I can say is that I am sooo very sorry for your husband, his friends, the girlfriend, and the young man's family. My thoughts and prayers are with all of you.

Lil' Woman said...

I'm so sorry for the loss....it's sad but sometimes it takes events like this to really pit things in perspective.

Megan said...

Wow...so sorry for y'alls loss! Definitely a great reminder to spread love ALL the time. We never know what someone is going through internally.

toi said...

I am so, so sorry for the loss. You are right someone's smile doesn't tell the hidden truth inside. I am so sad for hubby's teamate's family. You are right we should enjoy life each day as if it our last.

Nylse said...

so sorry to hear about your loss.
death does have an odd way of making us appreciate life.

Monique said...

So sad to hear that your hubs team mate has passed. What a tragedy. I'm glad that you are able to be so supportive of your hubs and that you remember to tell the ones you love that you love them. Thanks for the reminder not to take any day for granted.

Tami said...

I am so sorry Faith- for Sean, for you, for everyone that lost someone special in their lives. Know that I'm thinking about you all.

And I love you. I hope you know that.

Ashley said...

Faith, I'm very sorry to hear for this loss...especially for your husband. Its truly unfortunate when events like this transpire and several people are effected. Stuff like this does tend to make people reflect on their own lives. Its true you never really know what someone is going through, so I've always try to be a little kinder than normal. I agree everyday is truly a blessing and we have to thank Him, all day and everyday! Sending prayers your way!

Kathy C. said...

Faith, that just breaks my heart. I can't imagine what that family is going through right now. What a tragic ending. I'm so sorry to hear. You're right about letting the people you love know how you feel...because it's true, we never know when.
Praying for you guys.

Tiffany said...

I am so sorry to hear that. Unfortunate events like this certainly remind us to appreciate every single second.

Amy said...

So sorry. My prayers are with you, your husband, his teammates and the family of the young man who passed away.

Kat said...

Wow...I am so sorry for your loss and my thoughts and prayers are with his family, girlfriend, and you both. Many hugs.

Jenni @ Story of My Life said...

This made me cry, Faith. There are definitely tears streaming down my face right now as I type. Such a sad, sad story, but you wrote about it so beautifully and I thank you for that.

Korede and Kola said...

So sorry - praying for the team and for the family of the man who died...

Tanya (a Taste of T) said...

oh I'm so sorry. Thank you for the reminder though. Life is so precious.


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Newlywed and Decorating said...

I'm so sorry that happened! So sad! I will definitely pray for you, your husband, and your friend's family and friends.

ruthy ann said...

wow...news like that always brings perspective doesnt it?

Dana said...

Faith, just know that you did what you wanted to accomplish this weekend by doing all things that good wives do, by being a comforter and support to your husband in his time of need.

AV5848 said...

Faith, I'm so sorry for the loss of your husband's friend. It's such a tragedy when you lose someone in your life, but when it's done in manners so unexpected and unexplainable it's just that much harder. One of my best friends lost his baby brother on May 9. He was sitting outside his girlfriends stoop and a man came up to him asking for his motorcycle. Within 1 minute, my friend's brother was shot three times and left to die in his 19 year old girlfriend's arms. It's crazy and unimaginable and I can't ever understand the pain or struggle that family is going through. But all we can do is be there to support the people that are hurting. Your friends family is in my prayers. Continue being a great wife and being there to help your husband get through this.

Raven said...

The same thing happened to a long time family friend of ours. He hanged himself also. and it was SO unexpected. And my dad, who was really good friends with him, questioned himself the same way, "I should have called him more, I should have more more of an effort to see him", but I think that is the first thing that goes through everyone's head when something like this happens. So sorry to hear this, but thanks for sharing in an awesome way :)

Weather Anchor Mama said...

Sorry for your loss. There's nothing your hubs could have done. Totally not his fault.

What I Did Today said...

I love this post though I am very saddened to hear how it came about. Life is so precious. It's very, very tragic when someone feels that their life isn't of worth. But I love your thoughts. Thank you for sharing and thank you for the reminders to not take a single moment for granted.

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