Wednesday, December 12, 2012

You say Hurricane, I say Rugby.

So remember that one time I was very mean to Sean and I blogged about it because I felt awful. Oh, you don't remember? That's good. I won't even put that post in here because we've all forgotten about it ;).

Well, in an effort to not have that happen again, Sean and I came up with words that the other person will say when the other is just about to reach the point of apologizing profusely (most likely in tears) in 15 minutes.

The word Sean will say when I look like horns are growing out of my head is HURRICANE. I chose that word because let’s face it, when I’m angry it’s pretty bad. When I say that I step out of my skin when I’m angry, I seriously mean it. Not cool at all.

The word I will say when Sean is not taking responsibility for his actions by saying “I didn’t know” is RUGBY. I think the word he chose is perfect because rugby is all about doing and not thinking, because if thinking was the case no one would play rugby.

I think this will be fabulous because Mr. Sean is really, really laid back. I mean, so laid back that when I’m going a tad bit crazy, I begin to feel like something is wrong with me. I mean, I’m growing horns and Sean is calmly sipping his coffee.

The reason that I start growing horns is because when Sean does something that completely bothers me his reply is, “I didn’t know”. And that gets him off the hook. Because how can I be mad if he didn’t know? HE DIDN’T KNOW!

So because I’m still annoyed and can’t let him get away with that simple, “I didn’t know” … I get bat poop crazy because WHY didn’t you know? And then 15 minutes later, I’m apologizing because he didn’t know that I would get all HURRICANE in this piece. You also don’t need to genuinely say sorry when you didn’t know. But when you get HURRICANE you have to.

Now, Sean will get to know when I think it’s a cop out and that he needs to say a quick and sincere apology. I’m kinda looking forward to when I get to say RUGBY because then there will be a lot less HURRICANE in our house.

41 comments:

Carolyn R said...

This is a great idea!!

Laurie @ The Rookie Wife said...

What time?! I have no idea what your talking about;)

I love the idea of "warning words" Maybe hubs and I will do something along those lines so that things don't ever get to the point where we say something we can't take back.

You and Sean are the cutest:)

Brandi @ Home Team Dreams said...

Love this! Such a good idea. I definitely can get all "hurricane in this piece" sometimes too, unfortunately. I really think that this is something that my hubby and I should look into implementing as well. Thank you for this, Faith!

K&R said...

hahahaha, such a great idea!

K

dmacke said...

I love your choice of words!
My mister and I need to do something like that.
We have found that asking for forgiveness is sometimes more challenging (and sincere) that saying "I'm sorry." If I have to ask for forgiveness it places a bit more responsibility on words/thoughts/actions.
Happy Wednesday!
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YeamieWaffles said...

I love the idea of using key words, the best marriages have this kind of quirks and ideas about them so I find this one is incredibly cute. I honestly think that this is the best way of dealing with things, I love how you're not letting this argument affect you guys at all. On a side note the sports store I work in is a rugby store and we have a whole lot of American internatinal rugby shirts which are unsold. Thanks to me knowing about Sean I'm able to say with confidence that rugby is becoming more well known over in America and more played as well.

Angela said...

That is such a good idea!!!!

Xx

THE mom said...

That is a great idea! I get all hurricane too smh. I think its our DNA. I may need to suggest this to my rugger too.
OMG IF you think in rugby you WILL get run over...literally.

Elfena said...

Great idea!Lovely blog. What about following each other?

Tenecia said...

Y'all are too cute....quit acting like mature adults and making the rest of us crazy couples look bad ;)

T.

Kathy C. said...

haha what a cute idea!!

Erika said...

Genius!! XO

Cece said...

Sounds like a good plan. You realize there is an issue and you have taken steps to hopefully prevent it next time. Mj is super laid back too so I always end up feeling like the crazy meanie too. It probably works really well that they are laid back; one of us needs to be right?

brittany kyte created. said...

Oh marriage... We laugh, we cry :)
But it sounds like you guys are learning each other quite well! Cute story :)

Brittany



ruthy ann said...

we actually take "time outs" when it reaches that point...its good to have a plan

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lori said...

this is a great idea! its funny, i used to blow up SO easily and my hubs (when he was only a bf) was like sean... so chill it would piss me off more... and since we have gotten married, it's like we tried to meet each other in the middle and instead, we completely swapped places. he'll be the one yelling and i'm all like "im going to bed, can we talk about this in the morning?"

Brittany said...

What a great idea! Zach and I definitely need to establish something like this. I hate when we fight! It's the worst.

The Sweetest Thing said...

Sweetness OVER LOAD!

Meg {henninglove} said...

i think that is wonderful!! we might need words like that to take a time out before one of us says something we will regret later on or when our arguments are getting really fierce

Ashley Marie said...

that's actually a really great idea! we don't have anything like that in my house but it would probably save me from some melt downs haha!

Carlie said...

That is smart to have cue words like that! I hope it works!

Nylse said...

in our house it would be hurricane and soccer...we tried this for a while; I don't really know how long it lasted...and I cant say how successful it was.
Eventually you learn to say what you have to say and apologize when you're wrong and keep it moving...
Just got to keep talking

Jennifer said...

What a great idea! A great way to keep communicating effectively! (o:

jessica renee said...

I love love this idea! And don't feel alone, I get full on crazy with my anger..from time to time ;)

Whitney said...

What time were you ever mean to Sean? I have NO idea what you are talking about? : ) This is such a good idea, way to take preventative measures! Garrett is kind of laid back/kind of dramatic but I definitely know when he's mad at me lol.

Erica said...

Brilliant idea!
Erica xo

www.sushiturtlesandlife.blogspot.com

Chrissy + Nate said...

Love it! What a great idea!

Laura Darling said...

This is such a good idea! You two sound like a great couple! I love the reasoning behind your words! When my sister went to her first high school party, I told her that we could think of a code word and if she wanted to leave, all she would have to do is call me and say the word and I'd come get her. Do you know what word she thought would be good? Watermelon. Cause that wouldn't be obvious AT ALL. ha!

What I Did Today said...

Hahahaha! This had me laughing so hard! Especially the part about you growing horns while Sean is calmly sipping coffee. You are so funny!

Travel_The_World said...

Love this. hubby and I should come up with something like that cause I too grow horns when I get mad.

MerelyMarie said...

Cute!!! "Hurricane" Ha!

Florence said...

Hi Faith, love, love, LOVE your blog! I'm one of those silent readers you spoke of in your recent post, and it's high time I came out of the woodwork! I've been following for over a year, and I always find your post to be funny and refreshing. You're awesome. Thanks for sharing your life with us!

~Florence~

Jasmine HellogmSunshine said...

I think that is an awesome idea that you guys have agreed to. I'd love to hear how it works in the future - seriously. I know we need safe words but I am the one who would forget what word I am supposed to say. smh. Great post.

Mrs. Pancakes said...

Pretty innovative idea Faith... Hope it works out:-)

Monique said...

I really like this! You'll have to let us know how it works out.

two birds said...

i LOVE this idea. seriously, so smart! good for you guys for coming up with it!!

Faith and Love said...

great idea!!

Desi said...

Love this! Now I know what your reply to my comment yesterday meant! I didn't know what you meant by hurricane but now I do :)

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Nic A said...

I can't picture Sean drinking coffee! haha This is a great idea... clinton and I are very similar. He is very laid back and I am bat $hit crazy sometimes! Good advice Faith! miss you lots xoxo I have been terrible about keeping up with your blog and just started reading again... 2012??? i can't believe it's been that long but I don't remember reading these posts :( I've missed your style... not just fashion but writing too. Miss your personality... when are you coming "home" again???? xoxo